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halidah į„«į­”'s avatar

this. all of it. i read this twice, maybe three times.

you’re so right about the pain, the anger the weight. we end up heavy and burnt out, carrying a fire that only scorches us. you’re so brave to even admit this, to hold it up to the light and say, ā€œthis isn’t working anymore.ā€

the part about forgiving hit me hard because honestly, who are we if we’re not holding grudges or keeping score? it’s like i’m scared that if i let it go, i’ll lose a piece of myself, like that pain is my identity. but maybe i’m not betraying myself by letting go. maybe i’m setting myself free.

that reindeer analogy? i love the idea of shedding parts of ourselves—not because they weren’t important, but because they’ve served their purpose. And yeah, it doesn’t have to be about resolutions or timelines or ā€œfixingā€ anything. Just about choosing US, showing up for ourselves.

i want to tell you that i’m here for it. for you. for this becoming. i want you to laugh this year, to let your chest breathe without the weight of everything it’s been holding. it’s okay if it feels weird, if it feels like betrayal. growing always feels strange because we’re stepping into the unknown. but i promise you, you’re not alone in it.

we’re doing this together. this year? it’s ours.

love you always,

a proud Tobabyā¤ļø

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EseoghenešŸ’ž's avatar

My tobaby🄺

Just know that you'll be fine and like my friend always say "let go of this pain so your chest will grow".

How's your day going joor?😊

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Yvonne Matylda's avatar

Oh! I’d hold on to pain too, my love. I’d think it would make me stronger, but how I was wrong.

ā€œNo, fill your cup so much because your cup deserves to be full; you too are a person deserving of love from yourself, of kindness and joyā€

Yes, we are deserving of the love we pour into others.

Happy New Year, my Tobaby! Welcome to the best year of our lives yet. I prayed for you too. How is your day going, joor? Even though it’s clearly midnight! šŸ˜‚šŸ’˜šŸ’˜

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Ella's avatar

Happy new year Tobaby may you be great in 2025ā¤

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Idara bassey's avatar

Yeah I literally understand you Tobe

And I will just say that's life

Life it's is full of ups and downs, it unpredictable

I understand the pains and I pray that this 2025 will be a year of laughter

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OLOMU WINIFRED's avatar

2025 will be a great year for us allšŸ’žšŸ’ž

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kehindeā™”'s avatar

2025 will be your best year I promise

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Rosemary's avatar

Have a blessed year šŸ™šŸ„ŗ

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Amos Experience's avatar

Life happens but we need to keep going šŸ„¹ā¤ļø

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semilore Adetokunbo's avatar

Hey am new year and so happy to be here

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Byakatonda writes's avatar

Maybe the reason why I love reading tobe's newsletter is because He is authentic! Thank you for allowing us to know you more šŸ™, one thing I have learnt from Tobe is that, it's okay to be vulnerable as a man.it doesn't make you less man. I love you Tobe . you're an inspiration to me

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Symplygold’s world's avatar

Good decision tobaby šŸ¤—ā€¦ I guess we have decided on the same thing and that’s so beautiful to know; growing and leaving the whole pain behind. How’s your day going joor? ā˜ŗļø

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Jessica  Felix's avatar

thank you tobešŸ„ŗā¤ļø

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biglarry's avatar

And yessss all we want this year is ur happiness @tobeszn šŸ„¹šŸ’˜

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olumurewa Damilola's avatar

This just put a smile on my face!

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Victoria Kalu's avatar

Oh Tobe.🄹

Welcome to 2025.šŸ’•

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