I love being happy,I force myself to be happy even when I'm supposed to be sad because I'm used to not having people stand with me when I'm sad. I hate the genre horror and I love love love romcom kdramas. Buh I'm growing,I'm learning to show my true emotions even when there's no one my bed has always got my back oh and Tobe too😜.
The worst part about this is that you do it for a very long time and you get used to it. It becomes part of you like your romanticizing sadness I literally made a post about it
I sometimes hum songs I don’t even like, I read the last page of a book before I start it, and I love to eat noodles, I can eat noodles for a year straight!😹, I’m studying nursing but I don’t like it😹, I want to be an engineer but oh well😹💋.
And I’ve been struggling with loving myself, mainly because I don’t like what I look like or because I don’t see anything lovable about myself but it’s fine, I’ll get better with time! 😝. Please write to me next week {if you don’t I’ll faint}.
My day is going well!, I finally left the dungeon(Babcock university). But I’ll go back soon, ewww😭😭.
I’m scared of the age I turned this year (seems too serious)…
I wish I could be this vulnerable and tell everyone exactly how I feel and things I don’t like but they would say I’m ungrateful.
“Ama, you’re living some people’s dream” they say
I have been forced to be someone I don’t want to be! How did I become so unhappy.…
I just want to take it one step at a time, go at my own pace, live my own dream, do my things my way without worrying about how it would affect my family or future (my future should worry about me too)
I constantly live in the fear of the unknown.
“What if I leave this relationship and nobody loves me”
“What if I don’t listen to my family and things go bad for me”
“What if I’m on the right path now and I’m just bothered about unnecessary stuffs”
“What if I end up unhappy till the end”
*SO MANY WHAT IFS*
Omo! I had better get my shit together asap!
And Thank you Tobe, I reallyyyyy needed to rant today.
You are doing so well, it’s okay if you want something different regardless of how people feel 🤍 Be easy on yourself at the end of the day you only have you and believe that regardless of what happens you’d pull through strong🤍
Hi I’m Lordly, everyone calls me psycho. But I’m just a girl who loves sports and horror movies. I love to sleep and I don’t care about how I look I go for comfort
I love mangoes and avacado . I love my company. I still watch cartoons and listen to boy bands. I love country side music and romcoms. I laugh and smile a lot but don’t even know if I’m happy.I cry while watching movies even cartoons. I love to talk but I’m very shy soo I often talk to my self. I try so much to put in my best but never enough for anyone. But it’s ok right? This time I’m just going to breathe 😮💨
Hi Tobaby, This is such a relatable letter , I am Timilehin and when I was younger I used to stammer a lot so I was really laughed at and I became quiet , I actually thought I was quiet growing up now I see how much it has affected me and has drowned my voice even tho it’s better now I have become timid and afraid that when I speak I’d not make sense .
This has affected my ability to properly express myself and that’s why I love these letters because when I see you express yourself so much and being able to write every detail of how it feels , I feel like it helps me.
I have cried so hard this week , learnt so many hard truth but I really hope I find my voice and I love myself even now I’m so close to tears , I never want to feel alone when I have so many people around me . I love when you said “I’m boring and I’m happy “ because truly all that matters is that I see and choose myself evreryday regardless of how other people feel and there’s no one way to being cool or happy. I think I’m a really cool person whether people see it or not 🤍
Thank you so much Barrister Tobaby❤️ Your letters are healing me , I’m so glad I’m not alone
I’m sorry for not talking about myself as much all this while. In as much as I love reading and listening to you, I also want it to be about us. 🥹🥹
Random, I love horror and thriller movies; I don’t know why I like my movies anxious. I rarely watch something funny or about love. When it comes to novels, I’ve never read a horror novel; I love a romance one. I used to love tea as a little girl, but I now hate it! I’m more of a coffee girl now. I have been doodling fashion sketches since I was 3, and I used to post them, but I stopped to focus on building a fashion business.
I’ve been listening to Lady Gaga since I was 14. Listening to her made me realize I love to be in the fashion industry. I studied dentistry, but I hated it throughout my time there. My favorite song ever is "Applause" by Lady Gaga. I’ve been obsessed with it since I was 14. I thought by now at 26 I would be tired of it, but I’m not; I’m still in love with the song like I was the first day I heard it in 2013.
I love pink; I wish everything in the world was pink. 😭😭😂
I love things to the point of obsession; I either like them too much or not at all. I lie when people ask me how many siblings I have because I want to avoid the question of “Why don’t you have a sibling?” or people thinking it’s weird for someone to want or have only one child.
I have so many names: two Igbo names from my Dad, (Chioma and Adaeze) two Esan names from my Mum, (Eseose and Abosetali) and two English names—one from my mom and the other from my dad respectively.
I love staying indoors. If there were a competition for who stays indoors the most, I would win a gold medal. 🤣
I’m shy and quiet when I meet someone for the first time, but as soon as I become comfortable, you can’t get me to shut up (a certified yapper) 😹😹
I loooooooove trees!
Tobe, we have something in common: sleeping. 🤣🤣🤣 Others sleep for 6 hours, but I can sleep for two weeks, even 2 months. 🤣🤣 My favourite show ever is Euphoria. I love chocolate cakes.
I don’t have a favorite food either, as long as the food tastes good, I like it! And last but actually the first and never the least, I love you! My favorite person in the world!
Hi Yvonne! I’m studying Dentistry 😭 why do you hate it? 😔😭 I also wish the work was pink and I can relate to liking things in obsession (there’s no middle ground for me)❤️
O dear! Congratulations, I'm so proud of you and I wish you all the best! Dentistry is a great course if it's something you want to do. For me, it wasn't something I wanted to do or was passionate about. You will excel in your endeavors, and I wish you the very best.
Hi Tobe… I’m Zarah, because I like the name. I’ve been holding my breath too and I can’t swim under the water. I’ve been drowning and I’ve been the second choices. I’ve been buried in the shadows, and I had blended with the shadows. I believe I have ADHD but I’m scared to go and finalize a diasgnostics. I can barely see without my glasses. I’m a lover girl and I’m learning to love but Tobe, it’s hard. I’ve learnt to accept that it’s okay not to be a favorite or a priority, only as long as my presence is wanted and appreciated. I love the color brown solely because they’re the color of my eyes. I love being alone but I hate being lonely. I’m a sympath but hard to be an empath. I love being me on some days but most times, I hate being me.
I hope I learn to forgive and love myself more the same way you’re learning to. Thank you so much today. With each piece you heal a part in me.
I hope you love me despite… and not because. Because one day, the reason you love me might not be there anymore, and so will your love.
This was in many ways very relatable. I'm Theresa and I'm on my journey of self discovery because lately I figured I don't who I am and what I want. I'm also a recovering people pleaser.
I've cried the whole morning today, on the 1st of April.
I've been told I'm gentle and kind and empathetic and understanding but I've never really been those things to myself and I haven't even been trying to for the longest time.
I like studying people's eyes, and I don't care as much about their irises as I care about their cornea, the pink fleshy mass my lecturer says is called a caruncle.
I blame my course of study for that. I'm always hungry. I don't like eating and I'm not sure why.
The way I rannn??? I didn’t know I needed this really, I just woke up and the notification came up! I feel understood, heard and relieved a bit cause I could relate to every single paragraph. I decided to give myself grace and actually know myself cause I have never spent time by myself. I never knew who I was, I wish I could write like this about myself to myself but like you said it’s okay, I like to talk to I’d learn to talking to myself even though no one’s listening. Thank you my T🥹
Hi Tobe, I’m sorry I’m just having time to read my life letter 🥹, final year has been draining me 😩. Anyways, I’m Adewunmi and here are some random facts about me.
I love blue, and I really really love pasta. I don’t like the way I look (funny right 😂) cuz I’ll love to be a little bit slimmer. I love romcoms and I don’t like listening to slow American music. I recently found out that the person I like is in a relationship 😭😂. I’m very shy irl and I love my own privacy. I love dressing up and I don’t like wearing clothes that expose my body, tho I feel I might not find a man due to the way I dress cuz I feel, men of nowadays prefer ladies that dress up and wear stuffs that are kinda exposing. Anyways let’s wait and see 😂. I’ll be 22 on the 23rd of June, and I really wish to see you on that day 🥹💘.
Let me stop here, so I won’t bore you 😊. By the way, my barrister, how is your day going joor?? 😂🫶💘
Hi I'm Mary nd m 16 this is actually my first time commenting, You no this feeling when u have a best friend nd u don't feel like she even takes you as a friend talk more of a best friend, always do feel bad then until i told my sef I can do it with or without her, started to love my sef, spend more time for mysef nd guess wat M always happy, see to u my tobaby we love u I mean I love u nd I highly recommend you love urself so much. How is your day going jorrrrrrrr😊
I love sleeping, I love reading novels a lot, I love being with people I love because of the joy and peace they bring to me, I doubt myself a lot, I love love, Ive not fully discovered myself yet but I love that I'm embracing the various changes life has brought my way.
Hi, I'm Edem,I'm 18
I love being happy,I force myself to be happy even when I'm supposed to be sad because I'm used to not having people stand with me when I'm sad. I hate the genre horror and I love love love romcom kdramas. Buh I'm growing,I'm learning to show my true emotions even when there's no one my bed has always got my back oh and Tobe too😜.
How's your day going big Tobaby
Oh and congratulations on completing law school
The worst part about this is that you do it for a very long time and you get used to it. It becomes part of you like your romanticizing sadness I literally made a post about it
My T-baby❤️!, Yes I’ll do you a favor!,
I sometimes hum songs I don’t even like, I read the last page of a book before I start it, and I love to eat noodles, I can eat noodles for a year straight!😹, I’m studying nursing but I don’t like it😹, I want to be an engineer but oh well😹💋.
And I’ve been struggling with loving myself, mainly because I don’t like what I look like or because I don’t see anything lovable about myself but it’s fine, I’ll get better with time! 😝. Please write to me next week {if you don’t I’ll faint}.
My day is going well!, I finally left the dungeon(Babcock university). But I’ll go back soon, ewww😭😭.
Take care of yourself my Tobechukwu!💘🫧
I’d read the last page of a book and watch the end of a movie firstly too😭
Me too 😭
Hii shallommmmm!
You're sooo soo cool😭❤️
I'm Bisayo btww🤍.
Hiiiiii💋💘
Hi, I’m Ama
I’m scared of the age I turned this year (seems too serious)…
I wish I could be this vulnerable and tell everyone exactly how I feel and things I don’t like but they would say I’m ungrateful.
“Ama, you’re living some people’s dream” they say
I have been forced to be someone I don’t want to be! How did I become so unhappy.…
I just want to take it one step at a time, go at my own pace, live my own dream, do my things my way without worrying about how it would affect my family or future (my future should worry about me too)
I constantly live in the fear of the unknown.
“What if I leave this relationship and nobody loves me”
“What if I don’t listen to my family and things go bad for me”
“What if I’m on the right path now and I’m just bothered about unnecessary stuffs”
“What if I end up unhappy till the end”
*SO MANY WHAT IFS*
Omo! I had better get my shit together asap!
And Thank you Tobe, I reallyyyyy needed to rant today.
I love your letters 💯 Makes me happy 🤗
You are doing so well, it’s okay if you want something different regardless of how people feel 🤍 Be easy on yourself at the end of the day you only have you and believe that regardless of what happens you’d pull through strong🤍
Thank you💝
That makes us two🥺❤️
Buh it will get better with time❤️🩹❤️🔥
Hi I’m Lordly, everyone calls me psycho. But I’m just a girl who loves sports and horror movies. I love to sleep and I don’t care about how I look I go for comfort
I love mangoes and avacado . I love my company. I still watch cartoons and listen to boy bands. I love country side music and romcoms. I laugh and smile a lot but don’t even know if I’m happy.I cry while watching movies even cartoons. I love to talk but I’m very shy soo I often talk to my self. I try so much to put in my best but never enough for anyone. But it’s ok right? This time I’m just going to breathe 😮💨
You’re so cool , I love country music too 🥹 . I also relate with being shy , yes let’s all just breathe🤍
It’s completely fine. We are not weird they are 😮💨
Hi Tobe💗
I'm Atinuke (17) and full of life. I fear that I might be too much for people to handle, so I stay silent most of the times.
I crochet because I realized that it is the one place I can rest easy and forget the world and the one thing I can control.
I write, but only because my words choke me when I stuff them down too long.
I read because I can never get over how brilliant people's minds are.
Music is my safe place, I find such comfort and peace there🤍
I am studying Law because I don't think I can live without making an impact (even if sooo little) to the Legal system of Nigeria.
I cry each time I read a piece of yours (like I'm doing now), because you write for my soul and it heals me to feel so seen without being seen💗
I love love love how you write and I love your mind😭
Hi Tobaby, This is such a relatable letter , I am Timilehin and when I was younger I used to stammer a lot so I was really laughed at and I became quiet , I actually thought I was quiet growing up now I see how much it has affected me and has drowned my voice even tho it’s better now I have become timid and afraid that when I speak I’d not make sense .
This has affected my ability to properly express myself and that’s why I love these letters because when I see you express yourself so much and being able to write every detail of how it feels , I feel like it helps me.
I have cried so hard this week , learnt so many hard truth but I really hope I find my voice and I love myself even now I’m so close to tears , I never want to feel alone when I have so many people around me . I love when you said “I’m boring and I’m happy “ because truly all that matters is that I see and choose myself evreryday regardless of how other people feel and there’s no one way to being cool or happy. I think I’m a really cool person whether people see it or not 🤍
Thank you so much Barrister Tobaby❤️ Your letters are healing me , I’m so glad I’m not alone
I’m sorry for not talking about myself as much all this while. In as much as I love reading and listening to you, I also want it to be about us. 🥹🥹
Random, I love horror and thriller movies; I don’t know why I like my movies anxious. I rarely watch something funny or about love. When it comes to novels, I’ve never read a horror novel; I love a romance one. I used to love tea as a little girl, but I now hate it! I’m more of a coffee girl now. I have been doodling fashion sketches since I was 3, and I used to post them, but I stopped to focus on building a fashion business.
I’ve been listening to Lady Gaga since I was 14. Listening to her made me realize I love to be in the fashion industry. I studied dentistry, but I hated it throughout my time there. My favorite song ever is "Applause" by Lady Gaga. I’ve been obsessed with it since I was 14. I thought by now at 26 I would be tired of it, but I’m not; I’m still in love with the song like I was the first day I heard it in 2013.
I love pink; I wish everything in the world was pink. 😭😭😂
I love things to the point of obsession; I either like them too much or not at all. I lie when people ask me how many siblings I have because I want to avoid the question of “Why don’t you have a sibling?” or people thinking it’s weird for someone to want or have only one child.
I have so many names: two Igbo names from my Dad, (Chioma and Adaeze) two Esan names from my Mum, (Eseose and Abosetali) and two English names—one from my mom and the other from my dad respectively.
I love staying indoors. If there were a competition for who stays indoors the most, I would win a gold medal. 🤣
I’m shy and quiet when I meet someone for the first time, but as soon as I become comfortable, you can’t get me to shut up (a certified yapper) 😹😹
I loooooooove trees!
Tobe, we have something in common: sleeping. 🤣🤣🤣 Others sleep for 6 hours, but I can sleep for two weeks, even 2 months. 🤣🤣 My favourite show ever is Euphoria. I love chocolate cakes.
I don’t have a favorite food either, as long as the food tastes good, I like it! And last but actually the first and never the least, I love you! My favorite person in the world!
Hi Yvonne! I’m studying Dentistry 😭 why do you hate it? 😔😭 I also wish the work was pink and I can relate to liking things in obsession (there’s no middle ground for me)❤️
O dear! Congratulations, I'm so proud of you and I wish you all the best! Dentistry is a great course if it's something you want to do. For me, it wasn't something I wanted to do or was passionate about. You will excel in your endeavors, and I wish you the very best.
Hi Tobe… I’m Zarah, because I like the name. I’ve been holding my breath too and I can’t swim under the water. I’ve been drowning and I’ve been the second choices. I’ve been buried in the shadows, and I had blended with the shadows. I believe I have ADHD but I’m scared to go and finalize a diasgnostics. I can barely see without my glasses. I’m a lover girl and I’m learning to love but Tobe, it’s hard. I’ve learnt to accept that it’s okay not to be a favorite or a priority, only as long as my presence is wanted and appreciated. I love the color brown solely because they’re the color of my eyes. I love being alone but I hate being lonely. I’m a sympath but hard to be an empath. I love being me on some days but most times, I hate being me.
I hope I learn to forgive and love myself more the same way you’re learning to. Thank you so much today. With each piece you heal a part in me.
I hope you love me despite… and not because. Because one day, the reason you love me might not be there anymore, and so will your love.
This was in many ways very relatable. I'm Theresa and I'm on my journey of self discovery because lately I figured I don't who I am and what I want. I'm also a recovering people pleaser.
I've cried the whole morning today, on the 1st of April.
I've been told I'm gentle and kind and empathetic and understanding but I've never really been those things to myself and I haven't even been trying to for the longest time.
I like studying people's eyes, and I don't care as much about their irises as I care about their cornea, the pink fleshy mass my lecturer says is called a caruncle.
I blame my course of study for that. I'm always hungry. I don't like eating and I'm not sure why.
I'm happy you have discovered yourself Tobe.
I can't wait to love myself even more and rediscover who I truly am amidst the thoughts of pleasing others.
OMG!!😭
Tobe I feel like you wrote this for me😭❤️
The way I rannn??? I didn’t know I needed this really, I just woke up and the notification came up! I feel understood, heard and relieved a bit cause I could relate to every single paragraph. I decided to give myself grace and actually know myself cause I have never spent time by myself. I never knew who I was, I wish I could write like this about myself to myself but like you said it’s okay, I like to talk to I’d learn to talking to myself even though no one’s listening. Thank you my T🥹
Hi Tobe, I’m sorry I’m just having time to read my life letter 🥹, final year has been draining me 😩. Anyways, I’m Adewunmi and here are some random facts about me.
I love blue, and I really really love pasta. I don’t like the way I look (funny right 😂) cuz I’ll love to be a little bit slimmer. I love romcoms and I don’t like listening to slow American music. I recently found out that the person I like is in a relationship 😭😂. I’m very shy irl and I love my own privacy. I love dressing up and I don’t like wearing clothes that expose my body, tho I feel I might not find a man due to the way I dress cuz I feel, men of nowadays prefer ladies that dress up and wear stuffs that are kinda exposing. Anyways let’s wait and see 😂. I’ll be 22 on the 23rd of June, and I really wish to see you on that day 🥹💘.
Let me stop here, so I won’t bore you 😊. By the way, my barrister, how is your day going joor?? 😂🫶💘
Hi I'm Mary nd m 16 this is actually my first time commenting, You no this feeling when u have a best friend nd u don't feel like she even takes you as a friend talk more of a best friend, always do feel bad then until i told my sef I can do it with or without her, started to love my sef, spend more time for mysef nd guess wat M always happy, see to u my tobaby we love u I mean I love u nd I highly recommend you love urself so much. How is your day going jorrrrrrrr😊
Hi, I'm Zion, I'm 18.
I love sleeping, I love reading novels a lot, I love being with people I love because of the joy and peace they bring to me, I doubt myself a lot, I love love, Ive not fully discovered myself yet but I love that I'm embracing the various changes life has brought my way.
Love it!! Embrace it all
Thank youu 💗